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Yoga Emotional Damage Control

By Dr Jonn Mumford (Swami Anandakapila Saraswati)

 

Ask yourself how many of the following mentally unhealthy premises you have accepted in your life?
 

Fallacy Number One:

"I must be adequate, achieving and competent in all possible ways if I am to consider myself a worth while person."

Philosophically it is imperative that we learn to live with and accept our personal failings. No objective standard exists by which you may decide you are a "success". Success is determined by whatever you consider it is for you personally.

Double check you are not merely subsisting on the unfulfilled dreams of your parents? Someone said that a child is just a canvass upon which parents "splatter paint".

If your idea of success is running a corner store and you achieve this, then you are as big a success as the millionaire business tycoon. Managing a household efficiently or fulfilling a desire to write a book makes you a success if these are your goals.

Somewhere I read that true success is being able to live your life in the way you find satisfying - not anyone else's way - your way!

Our society promotes contradictory ideals such as "a successful young executive is a ruthless competitor, a modest winner, and a good loser". Careful thought reveals that the above statement asks individuals to contain within the framework of their personality mutually exclusive traits. Don't be fooled by accepting such garbage.

The best key to achievement is to discover how you may release the innate creativity, which is possessed by everyone. Creativity lends itself to satisfaction in all areas from baking a cake to repairing a car.

Fallacy Number Two:

"I should be dependent on other people, and it is necessary to find someone stronger than myself on whom I can lean."

Be careful, women particularly, about believing this idea. One can rely on nothing but the self. No state, nation, political system, religious dogma, marriage partner, relative or friend can be completely relied upon.

Change is a fundamental law of life and the only really worthwhile dependence is upon oneself. The object of all true philosophical systems is to lead the student from a state of dependence to one of independence. When we have crossed the river of life why still cling to the raft?

From an Eastern viewpoint consistent meditation upon the 'Sat Guru' or 'Master Within' can allow you to build a pillar of strength within yourself and perform the alchemical transformation of being 'Alone' into being 'All one'.
By the same token we must accept humans are naturally gregarious and being 'independent' should not be at the exclusion of 'interdependence' promoting satisfactory support systems at work and home.

One of my old lecturers defined mental health as 'the ability to work and love' and both these activities involve interaction with others.

Fallacy Number Three:

"As an adult it is necessary that I be liked and appreciated by nearly every important person in my society."

The human condition is such as to encourage us to be riddled with insecurity and anxiety. We are all trapped to a greater or lesser extent by this fact. The more insecure we are the more reassurance we crave from others. Face the truth that you cannot be loved or liked by everyone. Someone will always dislike you (perhaps with good reason!).

The only approval that really counts is self-approval. Have you come to terms with yourself? If you essentially dislike yourself why should others like you? It is a great secret that only those with self-approval dare risk giving credit to others.

A closely allied fallacy is: "some members of society are wicked, bad, villainous and it is absolutely necessary that they be blamed and severely punished for their way of life".

What do you think about alcoholics, prostitutes, criminals, homosexuals, divorcees, adulterous marriage partners and abortionists? "Who will cast the first stone?"

If you accept that some people are intrinsically evil (rather than unhappy, brain-damaged, or else free of superficial moralism ) be careful you don't end up stoning yourself to death at a crisis period in your life.

If you base your life upon the fallacy of judging others, guilt will create a living hell for you, should you commit adultery, have an abortion, be divorced or experience homosexual attraction.

Perhaps it is worth contemplating that the bulk of serious criminal activity, drug addiction and alcoholism are all the end results of personality disturbances and neurological damage. In the sphere of human emotions and sexual activity be cautious about moral judgment of others for one day you may discover yourself in the very situation you have condemned.

Fallacy Number Four:

"It is an absolute tragedy and a personal catastrophe when things are not the way I very much wish they were."

Remember the old saying that bars do not a prison make? The prison is created by mental attitudes, not situations or the environment. Oscar Wilde said:

"We are all born in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars"

Do not be tricked into thinking human happiness is externally caused and that you possess little or no ability to control your sorrows and tensions. Although our problems in life cannot always be eradicated our attitudes to problems can be changed.

The difference between a tragedy which emotionally cripples one individual and a similar tragedy which leaves another adequately continuing to cope with life, is simply a difference in mental outlook, set or attitude. Avoid converting problems into worries.

You may feel I am being very trite and superficial in suggesting this - the reality perspective is that the majority of occurrences in our life that upset us most definitely are not CATOSTROPHIC - Tragedy is a word we should reserve for the accident at Thredbo or the recent sad death of a Princess.

Fallacy Number Five:

"If something is dangerous or potentially dangerous, I must be terribly concerned about it and should constantly dwell upon the possibility of it occurring."

A major key to philosophical equilibrium is living in the present. There is a distinct line drawn between awareness of possible danger in certain situations versus a fearful concern of phobic proportions in which the mind is living in imaginary anticipation of future calamity. When we become anxious over an imagined future calamity we are really reacting to the fantasy of an event, which has just occurred in our mind as if it had occurred in reality.

"Our worst misfortunes never happen, and most miseries lie in anticipation" - H. de Balzac (1799-1850)

We know that a natural ebb and flow in the affairs of men exists. Yantra Yoga (South Indian Numerology) teaches how to utilise the potential inherent in each segment of time as it arises: however the concept of cycles must never be misconstrued as an encouragement for neurotic concern with the future or fearful anticipation of natural testing phases which represent an inevitable part of living.

 

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Dr Jonn Mumford (Swami Anandakapila Saraswati) is an International lecturer and author whose works include "Ecstasy through Tantra", "A Chakra & Kundalini Workbook", "Magical Tattwas - Hindu Tarot for the West" and "Mind Magic Kit". This article contains excerpts from his books "How to Clear Your Karma in 9 Days" and "Death: Beginning or End" (Llewellyn Publications, USA). For information on Dr Mumford's private consultations, Distance learning Programs contact:

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