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If you have previously lost a child of any age, a new conception and pregnancy can be a volatile mixture of new joy and old sadness. It is nature’s way that as the new unfolds the old will pass away, leaving you regenerated for another cycle of growth. It is necessary therefore, that a woman finds new attachment for her desires, new outlets for her needs, either within her family or in society.
Carrying the memory of lost loved ones is a good and comforting thing never to be suppressed, but the events of the past must be emotionally separated from those of the present and future. Whilst transference is the way, it must be transference of the spirit and not of the feelings. This is not really as hard as |
one might think. Many people use such tragedies to redirect the consuming energy of their suffering into new and greater causes, enhancing the memory of their lost one, building up life again, wiser in the knowledge that all these things will one day pass on as well.
The death of children, with so much potential life unrealised, is a powerful metaphor for what we must all go through in our spiritual selves. Rather than getting stuck, we must all grow up, and with guidance, strive to reach our greatest potential. For that mother, her love must be reawakened, realised and re-expressed too. Wherever that deep bond between a mother and her child has been broken, something new must replace it to relieve that woman’s need to love. It is not a case of replacing the person lost, but a need to replace the outlet of a mother’s loving focus. | 
